Sunday, January 30, 2011
My Myspace
Hi everyone,
I know you've probably heard the phrase myspace. Who would have imagined coining the word "myspace" and having it become one of the top sites out there. Amazing, right? Wish i would have thought of it, Lol. Wonder what the person was thinking when he started Myspace? I mean did he have a looking glass into the future? Well probably so, right? But how? If i could figure that out, I'd probably be alright already, don't you think?
Well the whole purpose in all of this was to make a page available on myspace because i was having difficulties with my ex whom had custody of our now 18 year old daughter. At the time she was 14 and i knew that in time she would be allowed on the computer and i wasn't for sure if she'd decided she'd maybe want to look me up online. So i knew that, hey that could be a way for her to search me out (the idea came to me after reading a little posting on myspace about people like myself). I was very curious to know if she decided she wanted a relationship of her own with me (of course i was hoping with time and less of my ex's influence) all would smooth out and things have. Of course, she'd been told things that i wasn't around to defend myself on and my ex didn't make their where abouts public info (even though the court ordered he inform me, Haha anyhow).
So I'd say within a few months time, surprisingly i got a note in my myspace inbox from my daughter, she'd recognized some of the more racy photos of me and scowled at me initially in her note (i knew that it was coming from the hurt places within her for feeling she'd been abandoned). It wasn't and still isn't easy and it has taken a lot of patience and giving to get her to come around. For the time I'd missed in her life, there's no way to put in words why someone as important as her mom wasn't around and how selfish of her dad too. He certainly was not making more of an effort to insure that she kept a relationship with other biological parent(me). Of course, he was too busy at the time throwing me under the bus and pushing her step mom down her throat, as if that's going to ever replace me.
Telling my daughter and her knowing that she has divorced parents doesn't make a bit of difference. As parents, we know that our offspring will just have to deal with the fact that when we get divorced the child doesn't really have a say in which parent. Although i think my daughter was leaning more so to her father even at the age of 5. Its so important for a girl to have a relationship with her dad. That could very well determine all future relationships she'll have in her life and i couldn't ignore that. I hadn't had a relationship with my father from the age of 5 (see the pattern), but lots of experience with step parents and such. Mainly my upbringing was in a home with a single strong black mom. Besides, in some cases children get put to live with an aunt or grandparents, a foster home, and as well we have to deal with the fact that our ex will eventually move on, in my case we were still living together when he did the moving on part. So unfortunately for our daughter, he and I don't get along let alone talk at anytime, so that was very difficult possibly for everyone involved.
Now my daughter and I had been separated for sometime. The last occasion I'd spent with her was on Christmas 2000, at my mother's house. That year in 2007, i got to thinking around the holiday about creating this myspace page. Thanksgiving was a very sad and depressing day for me because i was missing my only babygurl soooo much, I mean I'd been cut out on all of her life as far as i was concerned and i also had my mom breathing down my neck about her first born granddaughter. Around the time she had started kindergarten is when she permanently began living with just her dad and that was in a different city, town, whatever... it was long distance. Plus having the added stress of watching all my younger siblings(i have three sisters in all and no brothers but 13 uncles so i'm still good), starting their families and knowing that there was one of us missing just wasn't a good thing all the way across the board.
Now my baby, she's gone off to North Carolina to attend a private university, pretty much we've only spent a little time together. Once we regained a connection it was always one thing or another such as her friends and grades being of her utmost priority. There just hasn't come a time when she's been able to come to my town (it's gonna take some maturing for her to understand all of this and i'm still waiting), so I'm hoping that i'll be able to visit her on campus this year. I did fly straight to California right after i got her note in my myspace inbox, to be with her in case she needed to be held. It wasn't easy because i was only there for a few days and now i was living a couple thousand miles away at this point (i'd made the decision to get on with my life) my ex wasn't in no way ever going to let me get out the state with our daughter and i'd had planned long before my daughter was conceived that i didn't want to be anything like my mom and live out all of my days in the place i grew up in (crazy, yeah i know). Anyways, I've been paying my daughter's cell phone bill since May of 2007. I'm able to get in touch with her at a click of my droid. Oh happy days.
So there's a happy story compared to all the recent articles about cyberspace bullying.
P.S.
I never got to say thanks My Myspace. Take it from me, someone who's been very unlucky got the biggest break that anyone could ever ask for. My daughter found me on your site and in return i found her as well. So Thank you again. Words can never express how i feel deep in my heart.
Check out my myspace: http://myspace.com/gspot662901
I know you've probably heard the phrase myspace. Who would have imagined coining the word "myspace" and having it become one of the top sites out there. Amazing, right? Wish i would have thought of it, Lol. Wonder what the person was thinking when he started Myspace? I mean did he have a looking glass into the future? Well probably so, right? But how? If i could figure that out, I'd probably be alright already, don't you think?
Well the whole purpose in all of this was to make a page available on myspace because i was having difficulties with my ex whom had custody of our now 18 year old daughter. At the time she was 14 and i knew that in time she would be allowed on the computer and i wasn't for sure if she'd decided she'd maybe want to look me up online. So i knew that, hey that could be a way for her to search me out (the idea came to me after reading a little posting on myspace about people like myself). I was very curious to know if she decided she wanted a relationship of her own with me (of course i was hoping with time and less of my ex's influence) all would smooth out and things have. Of course, she'd been told things that i wasn't around to defend myself on and my ex didn't make their where abouts public info (even though the court ordered he inform me, Haha anyhow).
So I'd say within a few months time, surprisingly i got a note in my myspace inbox from my daughter, she'd recognized some of the more racy photos of me and scowled at me initially in her note (i knew that it was coming from the hurt places within her for feeling she'd been abandoned). It wasn't and still isn't easy and it has taken a lot of patience and giving to get her to come around. For the time I'd missed in her life, there's no way to put in words why someone as important as her mom wasn't around and how selfish of her dad too. He certainly was not making more of an effort to insure that she kept a relationship with other biological parent(me). Of course, he was too busy at the time throwing me under the bus and pushing her step mom down her throat, as if that's going to ever replace me.
Telling my daughter and her knowing that she has divorced parents doesn't make a bit of difference. As parents, we know that our offspring will just have to deal with the fact that when we get divorced the child doesn't really have a say in which parent. Although i think my daughter was leaning more so to her father even at the age of 5. Its so important for a girl to have a relationship with her dad. That could very well determine all future relationships she'll have in her life and i couldn't ignore that. I hadn't had a relationship with my father from the age of 5 (see the pattern), but lots of experience with step parents and such. Mainly my upbringing was in a home with a single strong black mom. Besides, in some cases children get put to live with an aunt or grandparents, a foster home, and as well we have to deal with the fact that our ex will eventually move on, in my case we were still living together when he did the moving on part. So unfortunately for our daughter, he and I don't get along let alone talk at anytime, so that was very difficult possibly for everyone involved.
Now my daughter and I had been separated for sometime. The last occasion I'd spent with her was on Christmas 2000, at my mother's house. That year in 2007, i got to thinking around the holiday about creating this myspace page. Thanksgiving was a very sad and depressing day for me because i was missing my only babygurl soooo much, I mean I'd been cut out on all of her life as far as i was concerned and i also had my mom breathing down my neck about her first born granddaughter. Around the time she had started kindergarten is when she permanently began living with just her dad and that was in a different city, town, whatever... it was long distance. Plus having the added stress of watching all my younger siblings(i have three sisters in all and no brothers but 13 uncles so i'm still good), starting their families and knowing that there was one of us missing just wasn't a good thing all the way across the board.
Now my baby, she's gone off to North Carolina to attend a private university, pretty much we've only spent a little time together. Once we regained a connection it was always one thing or another such as her friends and grades being of her utmost priority. There just hasn't come a time when she's been able to come to my town (it's gonna take some maturing for her to understand all of this and i'm still waiting), so I'm hoping that i'll be able to visit her on campus this year. I did fly straight to California right after i got her note in my myspace inbox, to be with her in case she needed to be held. It wasn't easy because i was only there for a few days and now i was living a couple thousand miles away at this point (i'd made the decision to get on with my life) my ex wasn't in no way ever going to let me get out the state with our daughter and i'd had planned long before my daughter was conceived that i didn't want to be anything like my mom and live out all of my days in the place i grew up in (crazy, yeah i know). Anyways, I've been paying my daughter's cell phone bill since May of 2007. I'm able to get in touch with her at a click of my droid. Oh happy days.
So there's a happy story compared to all the recent articles about cyberspace bullying.
P.S.
I never got to say thanks My Myspace. Take it from me, someone who's been very unlucky got the biggest break that anyone could ever ask for. My daughter found me on your site and in return i found her as well. So Thank you again. Words can never express how i feel deep in my heart.
Check out my myspace: http://myspace.com/gspot662901
Friday, January 28, 2011
BP
It's been around for sometime but if you haven't heard, Black Planet(all one word dot com) is home to some of the greatest music artists pages, get free music straight from the artists page free of charge, connect and see what some of the latest gossip, news, and hype is about. Chat with friends, family, co-workers, and meet new people. Also create your own Black Planet homepage, post pics, and get in-depth info about the black community. I actually found a great book club through Black Planet and I ordered a few of Zane's racy novels to boot. There's also an extention to creating a homepage with one simple click you can be listed on a dating site, imagine that.
Check out my space on BP: http://blackplanet.com/cinnamon662901
Enjoy!
Check out my space on BP: http://blackplanet.com/cinnamon662901
Enjoy!
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Tagged your it! Lol.
Your probably asking yourself, "not another one of those social sites". Well to tell you the truth, if you've ever been asked to share your photos, your probably like me and just want a link where you have all your photos stored in one spot. The benefit to this site is that like many of the social sites, in order for people to view your photos they are required to sign-up before being able to view the photos, big bummer. Well, this site is great for those times because it's not necessary to become a member just to look at a few photos and your not stuck like me most of the time in Yahoo or MSN inbox, sending one photo at a time and sometimes attaching photos doesn't work, photo sizes are too large, and your email getting sent to spam (junk), Huh!
I recommend you take a look at my personal page. I get plenty of gifts, tags, messages in my inbox, and the site even alerts me when someone is interested in me. Never be bored again. Plus my recommendation is based on the number of times i've seen the same people over and over using the site. I practically get special gift tags everyday from one of the members and we've only spoken a few times. Pretty persistent huh?
Go to:
http://tagged.com/luwandaf
I recommend you take a look at my personal page. I get plenty of gifts, tags, messages in my inbox, and the site even alerts me when someone is interested in me. Never be bored again. Plus my recommendation is based on the number of times i've seen the same people over and over using the site. I practically get special gift tags everyday from one of the members and we've only spoken a few times. Pretty persistent huh?
Go to:
http://tagged.com/luwandaf
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